As I said before, she didn't say anything that I had never heard, but for some reason her approach stuck with me and worked with my children. I have been able to concentrate on preparing lessons (I am lucky enough to teach seminary for the last two months of school) and working on my writing thanks to a perpetually clean house. I never thought it would last this long, but children calling, "NO MEALS ON WHEELS!" down the halls has worked miracles.
Without further ado, my short notes:
Notes from Sister Hoole’s Segment of Stake Women’s Conference Spring 2010 Conquering Enemies of HomemakingEnemies:
1. Too much stuff
2. Making two jobs out of one
3. Flitting—hitting and missing—Everything started and nothing finished
4. Not delegating
What is the BIG reason for having ORDER? Elder Oaks—“It is important to have a house of order so the spirit of God can dwell there.”
Cures of C.H.A.O.S.--Cant Have Anyone Over Syndrome
1. Dejunk—learn to throw things away. Keep nothing in your home that is not useful or that you believe to be beautiful. It is a matter of self respect. You might need a clutter buddy to help you let things go.
2. Everything has a home/place and that is where it needs to be. This way you do not lose valuable time looking for things. You know where it is.
3. Pick up is part of play—even young children can learn and repeat this. Pick up is part of play.
4. Work smart not hard.
5. No flitting tips: Be aware and it is half solved. Make a plan, follow it. Make a list—top # and stick to it. Wear something with big pockets—or have a basket so you don’t get distracted taking items to another room. Simply put them in your pocket or the basket to go downstairs/upstairs to be taken care of later. Prioritize—Love the Lord, love yourself, love others.
“It is not the mountain you have to climb, but the sand in your shoes that bog you down.”6. All hands on deck or mother will sink. We tend to underestimate their intelligence and over estimate their experience.
7. Avoid management by crisis. Be specific in assignments, tell them the expectations, be flexible, fun, rewarding. Set them up for success. Be positive—catch them doing it RIGHT not wrong.
8. Don’t make work for others.
Sister Hoole then shared a story from Bishop Burton (Conference talk “More Holiness Give Me”)
It isn’t an either or situation. Just because your child is a good student, moral, etc, does not mean it is alright for someone to clean up after them. Teach your children that assuming responsibility is about habit, not time. Life has meaning beyond their own happiness.Teach the idea that we are all a Work In Progress.
Do not give people excuses to be weak, but reasons to be strong.
Faith is the reward of the righteous. Be high yield and low maintenance.